What Does a Boundary Look Like? Galatians 6:5-7 – “For each one should carry their own load. Nevertheless, the one who receives instruction in the word should share all good things with their instructor. Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows.” The parents of a twenty-five-year-old man came to see me with a common request: they wanted me to “fix” their son, Bill. When I asked where Bill was, they answered, “Oh, he didn’t want to come.” “Why?” I asked. “Well, he doesn’t think he has a problem,” they replied. “Maybe he’s right,” I said, to their surprise. “Tell me about it.” They recited a history of problems that had begun at a very young age.
Introduction to Victory Over the Darkness
As we embark on this year-long journey through the book, Victory Over the Darkness, there is an excitement in my spirit that is responding to the freedom that is so eloquently presented in this book. The freedom that our lives can be permanently changed as we are transformed by the truth of God’s Word…..only if we let it, allow it, and believe it. “Lend Me Your Hope” is the opening line of the Introduction to Victory Over the Darkness. I work with men on a daily basis who have lost their way, lost their hope. Hope that life can be better, different, more fulfilling. Most of the men I encounter at Renewed Life Ministries Outreach (RLMO) have very little hope that their lives can be different. But we know that is not the truth. Remember, it is the Truth that sets us free!
Victory Over the Darkness (Chapter Two) The Whole Gospel
We finished last month’s entry with this statement: “Who are you? Your life is not the sum total of your accomplishments and failures. Your life is not determined by your reputation. Your life is not measured by the material things you possess. The value of your life is summed up in two words: THE CROSS!”
Moving into Chapter Two we begin to see that “how we perceive ourselves” is very important, especially as it relates to who we are as a believer. Behavior will always follow Belief. What we believe about ourselves will determine what we do.
“SEE YOURSELF FOR WHO YOU REALLY ARE”
Dr. Anderson starts off chapter three with a story about a young lady in his Sunday School class who, to his surprise, was liked by everyone, had lots of friends, and eventually married the nicest guy in the college department. He asks the question, “What was her secret?” She simply accepted herself for who God said she was in Christ, and she confidently committed herself to God’s great goal for her life: to love people and grow in Christ. By all outward appearances, Claire had absolutely nothing going for her. But, she understood the truth – she (and you) is unconditionally loved and accepted by her heavenly Father and understands who she is in Christ!
LOVING THEM TO DEATH
I wrote the following letter to parents of a drug addict son. For their privacy, I changed the names to Sandy (the mother), Frank (the husband) and Bret (the son). The message in this letter is not just for parents, but for anyone who is around an addict. And this day and age, there is a good chance that includes you.
Dear Frank and Sandy,
Because my husband had a drug problem, I have been in several support circles with both drug/alcohol addicts as well as spouses, parents and other loved ones of addicts. I have also read and educated myself as much as possible. Many things I tell you will be hard to hear and you may not be ready to receive them. It is my prayer that if that is the case, you will set this letter aside and pick it up later when you are ready. I just pray your son is not dead by then.